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Friday, January 8, 2016

Live because I have to

Hola a todos!

5 weeks of sem break has come and gone rather quickly and before I knew it, I'm going to kiss goodbye to my sem break as I will be going back to NTU tomorrow to resume my 2nd year of tertiary education. I foresee there will be little update for my blog during the semester given that university life will be occupying a large chunk of my time. Nevertheless, you are welcome to follow my Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/tiongchinlim/) to get the latest update on my university life.

As the 2nd semester of my 2nd year in NTU is about to begin in a couple of days, I'm feeling the weight of anxiety upon my shoulder. Besides finding ways (still an ongoing process) to correct my substandard academic performance, I also have to deal with my extracurricular activities (ECA). Despite having done some planning for the event that my division is organising this coming semester during the first week of my sem break, I'm still not too confident that things will be smooth going. Factors like my lack of leadership experience, poor social handling, my impulsive attitude when dealing with stress, poor stress management and etc cause me to be anxious about my ability to do well in my role as the project manager of HGC in NTU Heritage Club.

I guess the good (or bad) thing about taking up the position of project manager of HGC is that it exposes many of my weaknesses and how ill-adapted I am in dealing with people. While many pointed out that university a time for self development and growth, I'm not too optimistic that I am able to gain a lot from my university life because of my tendency to shy away (for a better use of word) from problems when I'm feeling stress. As much as I wish to become a better person through all these new (tough) experiences and while I understand the saying "no pain, no gain", I certainly did not expect so much pain in terms of self development when I agreed to take over the project manager position.

Sometimes I wonder whether things will be very different had my wish to study in my preferred university without using my parents' money come true. I am never going to be able to find out and so I guess it's pointless to even elaborate about this point. The only thing I want to say is that everytime I go back to Singapore, it feels like I'm using so much of my parents' money to experience hell.

On a slightly related note to the previous paragraph, a couple of days ago my dad gave me some parental talk about my situation in university. I guess he probably heard it from my mum to whom I confided in. I have to say my ears are deaf to his talk because he contributed no part in terms of paying for my education ever since my high school days. I'm not saying he's useless as a father but I feel being a dad you have to be the one holding a higher accountability for paying for your child's education and he certainly fails at that. One thing I would agree with him is that it's not fair to trouble my parents with my own problems and unhappiness in university life as I'm a grown up now. And so I promise to myself that I will keep the shit things in my university life to myself and confide in none to them anymore in the future.

I'm sorry if you feel you have wasted your time reading this little rambling of my miserable life. I've been wanting to rant about this since that parental talk by my dad. Anyway, do come back and visit my blog comes May because that will be my academic year end break lasting until the end of July. I'm sure (and hoping) that there will be lots of happier things happening (work, vacation, meet-up session and etc) during that holiday and I promise to try my best to write as many posts as possible during that period.

That's all for this time and god knows when will be my next update during the semester. Adiós!

Signing off,
TC

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

How to focus: 5 Research-Backed Secrets to Concentration

Hello people out there! =)
I came across this article in TIME which strikes me because it pretty much sums up my concentration problems in university for the past 1.5 semesters. I have been struggling to find out the core reasons behind this particular struggle and now I hope this article proves to the savior to my university academic life.

This article is by Eric Barker and originally appeared in Barking Up The Wrong Tree.

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A question a lot of us are struggling with these days is “how to focus.” Concentration seems hard. Why does everyone joke about having ADD? There’s a reason…
Ed Hallowell, former professor at Harvard Medical School and bestselling author of Driven to Distraction, says we have “culturally generated ADD.”
Having treated ADD since 1981, I began to see an upsurge in the mid-1990s in the number of people who complained of being chronically inattentive, disorganized, and overbooked. Many came to me wondering if they had ADD. While some did, most did not. Instead, they had what I called a severe case of modern life.
Conspiracy theorists rejoice! When I spoke to Duke professor Dan Ariely about this issue he confirmed that, yes, the world is working against you.Here’s Dan:
The world is not acting in our long-term benefit. Imagine you walk down the street and every store is trying to get your money right now; in your pocket you have a phone and every app wants to control your attention right now. Most of the entities in our lives really want us to make mistakes in their favor. So the world is making things very, very difficult.
Let’s fix this. Let’s learn how to get our attention span back and be able to focus on the things that matter. (Hopefully you’ll be able to focus long enough to read this whole post. C’mon, you can do it. I believe in you.)
The first thing we need to look at answers the big question that’s on all our minds: why does it seem to be so much harder to focus than it was in the past? Here’s the reason…

1) Focus Is a Muscle

You bounce around between apps on your phone, email, TV and Facebook. We think those are just bad habits. But it’s a little more insidious than that.
Citing the research of the late Clifford Nass (formerly of Stanford University), Georgetown professor Cal Newport explains that too much unfocused time degrades your ability to concentrate when you need to. From my interview with Cal:
People who do a lot of attention switching, they believe they can focus when they need to, but the reality is they have lost that ability. When you give them a task that requires focus, they perform worse than people that don’t spend a lot of time fragmenting their attention.
Most of us know multitasking is bad when you’re working. But it actually has longer term effects. If focused concentration is a good workout for your brain, bouncing around distractedly is being a mental couch potato. Here’s Cal:
What research like Clifford Nass’s makes clear is that focus is actually a skill that has to be trained. You can’t just decide, “Now I’m going to go focus intensely for the next 3 hours on something.” If you haven’t actually built up your capability to do that, you’re going to have a very hard time. When you’re checking Facebook all the time on your phone outside of work, that has an impact on your ability to perform the next day when you arrive at the office.
Much like lifting weights at the gym, the more time you spend doing it, the stronger you’ll get. And if you haven’t been spending much time focusing, it can take a little while to get that skill back up to speed.
(For more from Cal on how to best manage your time, click here.)
So to be more focused you need to spend more time focusing. But what’s the first step to getting down to business?

2) Clear Your Head

You want to focus but you’re worried about the 900 other things you have to do. That’s a problem. Unresolved issues in your life don’t just distract you; research shows they actually make you stupider.
What’s going on here? Citing a study amusingly titled “Why Is It So Hard to Do My Work?”, Cal refers to the problem as “attention residue.”
When you are still thinking about other stuff it reduces the amount of mental firepower you have to devote to the task at hand.
The problem the research identifies with this work strategy is that when you switch from some Task A to another Task B, your attention doesn’t immediately follow—a residue of your attention remains stuck thinking about the original task.
The solution is to get the worries out of your head. Write them down. Why does this work? Neuroscientist Daniel J. Levitin explains that writing things down deactivates “rehearsal loops” in your brain.
When we have something on our minds that is important— especially a To Do item— we’re afraid we’ll forget it, so our brain rehearses it, tossing it around and around in circles in something that cognitive psychologists actually refer to as the rehearsal loop, a network of brain regions that ties together the frontal cortex just behind your eyeballs and the hippocampus in the center of your brain… The problem is that it works too well, keeping items in rehearsal until we attend to them. Writing them down gives both implicit and explicit permission to the rehearsal loop to let them go, to relax its neural circuits so that we can focus on something else.
Okay, so you should write down your concerns. What else should you write down? A plan for how you’ll take care of them.
…they could significantly reduce the effect’s impact by asking the subjects, soon after the interruption, to make a plan for how they would later complete the incomplete task. To quote the paper: “Committing to a specific plan for a goal may therefore not only facilitate attainment of the goal but may also free cognitive resources for other pursuits.”
(For more on how to reduce worry, anxiety and heartache, click here.)
The next step has nothing to do with you personally or your brain. It’s all about real estate…

3) Location, Location, Location

A number of experts I’ve spoken to all agree that the biggest part of focus is merely removing distractions. Productivity guru and author of The 4-Hour Workweek, Tim Ferriss explains:
Focus is a function, first and foremost, of limiting the number of options you give yourself for procrastinating… I think that focus is thought of as this magical ability. It’s not a magical ability. It’s put yourself in a padded room, with the problem that you need to work on, and shut the door. That’s it. The degree to which you can replicate that, and systematize it, is the extent to which you will have focus.
What does research show the most productive computer programmers have in common? They had employers who created an environment free from distraction.
…top performers overwhelmingly worked for companies that gave their workers the most privacy, personal space, control over their physical environments, and freedom from interruption.
One of the most powerful ways to change your behavior, proven in zillions of studies, is merely picking the right environment.
Willpower is great but it’s not the best solution. When I spoke to Cornell professor Brian Wansink about using willpower instead of context his answer was simple: it’s too hard.
Have a spot where you’re usually productive? Go there. Wendy Wood, a professor at USC explains how your environment activates habits — without your conscious mind even noticing.
Habits emerge from the gradual learning of associations between an action and outcome, and the contexts that have been associated with them. Once the habit is formed, various elements from the context can serve as a cue to activate the behavior, independent of intention and absent of a particular goal… Very often, the conscious mind never gets engaged.
Again, there’s solid neuroscience behind this. You want to associate focused work with a particular place and then go to that place and crank.
One way to exploit the hippocampus’s natural style of memory storage is to create different work spaces for the different kinds of work we do… If you’re working on two completely separate projects, dedicate one desk or table or section of the house for each. Just stepping into a different space hits the reset button on your brain and allows for more productive and creative thinking.
Cal Newport tells a great story of how extreme you can go with this idea. Peter Shankman had a very tight deadline he needed to make to get a book finished. He knew he always worked undistracted on planes. So what did he do? Here’s Cal:
What he ended up doing was actually booking a round trip business class ticket to Tokyo and he just wrote the whole way there, had an espresso in the Tokyo airport, turned around, and wrote the whole way back. To him, sitting in that seat on the plane where there’s literally no other things to capture his attention. With no internet, with nowhere else he could go, it put him into such an intense mode of deep work that he ended up writing a whole draft of his book in that 36 hour window.
(To learn what the most productive people do every day, click here.)
No, you don’t need to fly to Tokyo and back. But aligned with a good location is a particular attitude you need to have that’s very rare these days…

4) Stop Being “Reactive”

Turn smartphone notifications off. Your computer should not be chiming when you get a new email. You need to stop being in a mode where you arereacting to things. Everything must start and end with your decisions.
It’s the attention residue problem again. Any time you are reacting to new stimuli it pulls you out of focus. And then that can linger in your head, draining your ability to concentrate on what’s important. Here’s Cal:
It might seem harmless to take a quick glance at your inbox every ten minutes or so. But that quick check introduces a new target for your attention. Even worse, by seeing messages that you cannot deal with at the moment (which is almost always the case), you’ll be forced to turn back to the primary task with a secondary task left unfinished. The state that almost every knowledge worker spends their day in is a terrible state if your goal is to actually focus with any intensity. I think it’s the equivalent of having a professional athlete who’s coming to most games hungover.
(To learn what the most organized people do every day, click here.)
So maybe you try all this and you still can’t focus today. It might not be due to anything going on right now. It might all be the result of what you didn’t do last night…

5) Get Your Sleep

What’s one of the main reasons you spend so much time aimlessly surfing the internet? Studies say it’s lack of sleep.
Not getting enough shut-eye reduces willpower and depletes the self-control you need to avoid bad habits like watching cat videos. And if you’ve missed sleep, you’ve reduced your intelligence.
Take an A student used to scoring in the top 10 percent of virtually anything she does. One study showed that if she gets just under seven hours of sleep on weekdays, and about 40 minutes more on weekends, she will begin to score in the bottom 9 percent of non-sleep-deprived individuals.
Thanks to Malcolm Gladwell, everyone has heard of Anders K. Ericsson’s“10,000 hours” of deliberate practice study. But there was something else besides time practicing that contributed to the skill of those experts: getting a lot of sleep.
Out of the 10 everyday activities, only sleep was rated as reliably more relevant to improving one’s violin performance than the grand mean, and 5 activities were rated reliably less relevant.
In fact, some people’s emotions are so disturbed after a night of sleep deprivation that they could be classified as psychopaths.
All of these things combine to change the way they score on clinical mood disorder scales, often tipping perfectly normal people over the edge into the clinically relevant zone, so that, if tested on that particular day, they could be classified as depressed or even as psychopaths.
(To learn how to get a great night’s sleep, click here.)
Okay, we’ve learned a lot. Let’s round it up and get the skinny on the most important reason why focusing is so important…

Sum Up

Here’s how to focus:
  • Focus is a muscle: The more time you spend focusing, the better at it you will get. Don’t give up.
  • Clear your head: Got concerns? Write them down. Make a plan for how to conquer them. Then get to work.
  • Location, location, location: Go where you know you’ll get stuff done where there are no distractions.
  • Stop being reactive: Turn phone notifications off. No interruptions. It all starts and ends with you.
  • Get your sleep: Or you’ll be dumb and impulsive. More sleep means better performance across the board.
Yeah, if you are really focused you’ll perform better at work. Duh. But what’s an even more important reason to build up that focus muscle? You’ll be happier.
“Five years of reporting on attention have confirmed some home truths,” Gallagher reports. “[Among them is the notion that] ‘the idle mind is the devil’s workshop’ when you lose focus, your mind tends to fix on what could be wrong with your life instead of what’s right.”
Paul Dolan teaches at the London School of Economics and was a visiting scholar at Princeton where he worked with Nobel-Prize winner Daniel Kahneman. He explains the importance of attention in his book, Happiness by Design: Change What You Do, Not How You Think:
Your happiness is determined by how you allocate your attention. What you attend to drives your behavior and it determines your happiness. Attention is the glue that holds your life together… The scarcity of attentional resources means that you must consider how you can make and facilitate better decisions about what to pay attention to and in what ways. If you are not as happy as you could be, then you must be misallocating your attention… So changing behavior and enhancing happiness is as much about withdrawing attention from the negative as it is about attending to the positive.
You create your world with what you pay attention to.
There are a million things happening right now: some good, some bad.
Focus on the bad and life’s not going to seem so hot.
Focus on the good and whaddya know — the world’s suddenly a much better place.

Sunday, January 3, 2016

Happy 2016


Happy new year to everyone out there! =D

Before I go and talk briefly about my new year wishlist, let's begin this post by talking about how I spent my New Year Eve. I had this sudden idea during 回巢 that I wanted to spend the new year eve with my 学记 friends, something I have never done before. I suggested this to Poi Yi and she agreed to host me and Yi Yin (Evangeline) in her house for the New Year Eve. Although it was just the three of us, I enjoyed it nonetheless because as the old saying goes: it's the company that matters.

That day, after I grabbed a bottle of sparkling juice from TLC Supermarket, I took LRT to Sungai Besi station where Poi Yi picked me up, one of the many hospitality that she and her family shown throughout the time I spent at her place. Evangeline arrived much later so we spent the moment waiting for her by playing with Poi Yi's dogs and watching TV. When Evangeline arrived, she also brought a birthday cake for Poi Yi and I as we both celebrate our birthday in January. We had steamboat dinner for the night and of course I enjoyed the dinner because the two ladies couldn't eat much. xD

After dinner, we sat in the living room talking with Poi Yi's family as well as playing with her dog (again xD), Amber. Around 10.45pm, Poi Yi's parents went to sleep and the three of us plus Poi Yi's brother spent some time in her brother's room talking about cooking. Her brother also gave his room for me to sleep for the night. As 12am and 2016 approached, we went back to the dining room to get ready for the countdown.

As the clock ticked to 12am, it was a small cheer for us as we casually wished each other Happy New Year before we all got busy with our smartphone as we wished our family and friends happy new year. Moving on, it was cake cutting time as Poi Yi and I celebrated our birthday in advance. Then, we popped the wine and talked for the rest of the night.
Happy Birthday (in advance) to Poi Yi and myself =D
Cheers to 2016. Happy New Year!!!
Random selfie coz Pauline requested it.

The next morning, Poi Yi's family treated me breakfast before Poi Yi drove me home. A big thank you to Poi Yi and her family for all the hospitality. =)

So, 2016 has arrived and though I'm not someone who always put up new year resolution (it's a burden to achieve it sometimes, you see), I do have an expectation for this year and I'm kinda excited about it. So, here's goes the 2016 wishlist:

1) Make a great leap for my university academic life and work hard to pull up my CGPA more. 

2) Survive the remaining of my Project Manager tenure in NTU Heritage Club and make the most out of it for my character development. 

3) Have a fulfilling and enjoyable academic year end break (May to July) aka holidays filled with temporary jobs, vacation, catch-up session with friends, movies and many more.

4) Secure a great internship opportunity which I will be doing in the first half of 2017.

5) Get a part-time job in December and earn money to buy myself a pair of Air Jordan shoes. 

6) A happier and more memorable year. 

That's all for the first post of 2016. One more target that is not on my official wishlist would be to write more posts this year than I did in 2015 (29 posts). 

Signing off,
TC


Wednesday, December 30, 2015

Sem break review

Hello people out there!

It's been quite some time since I wrote a proper update. As 2015 is coming to an end soon along with my semester break, I want to do a little review of what has happened for me so far this semester break.

Semester break began when I finished my last exam paper on 4th Dec. I traveled to Garden By The Bay to view the Christmas Wonderland with my university friends. As that night is still a couple of weeks away from Christmas, I won't say the Christmas atmosphere there is at its absolute peak. Nevertheless, it was quite a relief for us to get out of our university and enjoyed the scenery and night view of Singapore.
Ignore my mustache. #ThePerksOfPostExamAppearance
Group photo of us at Christmas Wonderland

I did not immediately go back to KL but stayed in Singapore for another week. The reason being I wanted to be able to do some planning for my ECA next semester and I felt it's best to do it in Singapore as I doubt I will be able to focus when I'm back home. I felt satisfied and more at ease that I managed to come out with a plan and timeline leading up to the event that my division will be organising. However, I would admit that I do not have the utmost confidence that everything will go according to plan. It will depend on my ability to lead and my mental and emotional strength to carry on when things are not smooth-sailing. At least I have a plan to fall back on and I started planning earlier rather than come out the idea as the semester goes along, and that would be very stressful as I have attested to it during the first semester. All these are part of the learning process and trying to make the most out of my university life. 

Besides working on my ECA planning for next semester during my lengthened stay in Singapore, of course I did things that are befitting of holidays. One of it was taking advantage of the Internet speed in my hall of residence and watched movies online. The list of movies that I watched includes What If, Jurassic World, Abraham Lincoln Vampire Hunter, and The Theory Of Everything. I watched Jurassic World in one of the tutorial rooms in the new The Hive building in my university, which I never pay a visit to during the semester because I prefer to study and do things in my room. Also, I had supper with my university friends after watching Abraham Lincoln Vampire Hunter together. 
The Hive building aka the Dim Sum building as the NTU students like to call it. 

Besides watching movie, I met some friends in Singapore. Jia Wei (Joanne), my XJ friend, came to visit Singapore and we had lunch at Orchard, talking about university life and reminisce about our XJ times. On the same day, I went to meet Wai Kei in her poly before she paid a visit to my university again and for this time, I gave her a rough complete tour of my university until she complained her legs are sore. 

Fast forward a little, I was back in Kuala Lumpur. Managed to catch up with Kar Leong and Kanesh on 18th Dec as Kanesh was back in KL for a couple of days. Did the usual play-darts-and-supper session. The next day, I went back to the annual XJ trainee camp 回巢 session again to catch up with my XJ friends. This year's venue was the same as last year and is located near my area, which is of course ideal for me. I would say this year was the least exciting one for me because I did not manage to spend time with more people than I would like. Anyway, I stayed overnight at the campsite again but highly doubt I will do so again the following year. We will see. 
With my fellow 24 XJ friends
With my xue jie, Kah Yan. She's the one that saved my XJ life by convinced me to stay back then. 
This year 回巢 include a performance by violinist Josh Kua

The movie marathon did not stop even though I thought it will back in KL because of the slow Internet speed. Surprisingly, my home's Internet speed is fast enough to watch movie online. I guess perhaps my brother upgraded it. Anyway, I managed to watch the entire Twilight movie saga and also The Danish Girl and hopefully I will be able to catch a couple more movies in the remainder of this sem break before I go back to Singapore. 

One more highlight of this sem break is that Kai Hoong invited me to his house for BBQ/steamboat dinner on Christmas Eve. Definitely enjoyed the food and alcohol as well as the gaming and chit chat session with those that were in attendance. 
Well spent Christmas Eve night with these peeps

Overall, this sem break turned out to be less interesting/entertaining than the one I initially imagined. Very little basketball session because Jeff is not back in KL again. Not much catch up session with friends due to various reasons (busy, timing and etc). Done little in terms of watching videos about leadership to improve myself. One thing that is close to my initial expectation for this sem break is that I spent more nights at home accompanying my family (my mum, in particular). I hope my mum enjoys the nights I spent at home talking to her as much as I enjoy in taking the effort to be more by her side during the holidays.

That's all for this post. Anyway, rereading this post makes me feel this piece of update is not a good piece of writing. =.=" I'll just put the blame on this short and less-fulfilling holidays. But alas, at least I wrote something that I can read and reminisce in the future. lols

Signing off,
TC

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Tag

Greetings everyone! It's been a long time since I was here. University studies along with extra curricular activities occupied most of my time during the semester until I hardly ever have the mood to write (I did try, a few draft posts are left unfinished). Now that it's my semester holidays, I guess it's right to come back here polish a bit of my blog since I couldn't find any other better things to do. (plus doing this tag because Ming and Pauline tagged me)

Rules:

1. Do this tag and answer all the questions in your own blog.

2. Delete question no.20 and add one of your own question instead.

3. Tag 8 victims to do this tag..

Questions:

1. What was your dream when you were still a small kid?
I couldn't even be sure what's my dream now so please forgive me for not remembering that childhood dream of mine. 
2. What is the happiest thing in your whole life?
Getting rewarded for the things that I had worked with my soul and heart. 

3. What do you wish to have right now?
First answer that came to my mind is something I would never have the chance to obtain anymore. So, I'm just gonna steal Pauline's answer: To get my life on track. 

4. When was the last time you last horse-laughed?
Couldn't quite remember since I hardly laugh these days but I remember I used to be good at this back in high school (I'm complementing myself, thank you). 

5. What did you realise recently?
The importance of family and how much I wasted my university life so far and would continue so for quite some time until I find a purpose in life again. 

6. Which bad habit in you that is the most unacceptable?
Getting prone to procrastination.  

7. When you are unhappy, what will you do?
I'll just take frustration the same as unhappiness. I punch the wall or do something that will hurt, but not harm, myself. 

8. What are you afraid of losing?
The things that I had worked for. 

9. Within five years, which target is the most realistic one?
Graduate from university with a second-upper class (hopefully) and earning my own money to feed myself. 

10. When you meet someone that you like, will you profess or hide your feelings?
Hide. I doubt that I had enough charisma to charm any girl now. 

11. List out 3 kinds of people that you hate the most.
People who is not being honest to me. People who thinks that they are above everyone. 

12. Define loneliness.
Not having someone to go through the good and bad times with you. 

13. Are you satisfied with your life now? Do you think any changes should be made?
It's a capital N O for the first question. I wish I have the ability to make changes to change my current life into the one I desired. 

14. When is the most recent time you feel touched?
My 21st birthday surprise by my OG Cerberus and my CBE buddies.

15. Where is the most beautiful place that you've visited?
The Great Wall of China

16. A song that is playing in your mind recently.
Michael Jackson - They don't care about us. 

17. If you have a wish to come true, what is it?
Getting a scholarship to study at The University of Manchester.

18. Do you have anything to be worried or scared recently?
My extra curricular activities work.  

19. If the world is going to end, what will you do?
Apologize to my parents for being a ungrateful child. 

20. What's the one thing you would really love to buy right now?
A pair of Air Jordan shoes.

I tag anyone who comes across this post and wish to let me read his/her answers (do tell me if you do this tag =D )